NOT MEETING EXPECTATIONS

If you are a daddy who is not meeting up to the expectation of your wife and kids – I have news for you – you are not alone! Now my prayer is that you won’t stay long not meeting their expectations becuase God has given us the divine task to lead our family. If we fail to lead, somebody else will. It would either be your wife or your kid who would lead the family if you don’t.

So just like in any business or career – I encourage you to step it up a notch. How?

1.Partner with your WIFE. You need to show her your undying love. Remember you are partners in raising up your kids. It is hard to do it alone. Get some of the roles that she is trying to give to you.

2. Take the leadership rein back. You would be surprise how your wife would be so happy to give it back to you. Daddy, they are waiting for you to take charge.

3. Stop working – Keep your day off sacred – dont do any work. Come home for dinner. If you really need to work, do it when everybody is sleeping.

4. Pray – husband, daddy your prayer is powerful. Never underestimate the power of prayer.

 

Yaya you are not Daddy.

What is alarming these days are the number of babies and toddlers growing up with YAYA. Now I have nothing against Yaya. In fact, we have one. But to make Yaya the parent would be a grave mistake for parents to do. Here are some reasons why:

1. Because you are the parent. There is nobody who could parent your child better than YOU. God has given you the honor of parenting a child. Children are a gift from the Lord – hindi sila pabigat sa atin. If you feel like you cannot parent a child – then stop making babies.

2. Ownership – a person who owns a valuable thing takes good care of it. No matter how good they YAYA is – your kids are not their kids. Yaya can only do so much. The role we play as parents is vital to the identity of the child. We are responsible to take good care of our kids. Yaya is there to assist – not to raise up a child.

3. Moral Values - prior to having a baby, you have no YAYA. When baby came out – you hired one. If you think about it we as parents are entrusting our kids to a total stranger. Scary thought isn’t it? Yaya’s role is to help you when your hands are full. They could help you change the diaper, bathe the baby, sleep with them at night – but to delegate the moral responsibility to YAYA might not be a wise decision unless YAYA is more morally upright than the parent. (OUCH!)

One of my friend’s turning point was when his son told him, I don’t like you, I like YAYA. I hope we won’t be able to reach this point where our kids prefer to have YAYA than to have us because YAYA you are not DADDY!

 

family day

Woke up at 8am and had breakfast with the kids. By 9am we were in the playroom. Alyanna and Mika cooked for me while I play with my action figures (haha!) By 10am, I was full eating the plastic and imaginary food and reading almost 8 books to Alyanna and Mika so we decided it was MOVIE TIME! We watched HI-5.

After lunch, off to Manila Zoo. Good thing it wasn’t raining. Was glad to see some changes in Manila Zoo. it was cleaner and there were more animals and they did some renovations. We were not able to go to the petting zoo because it rained so we went straight to Robinson Place Manila.

Alyanna and Mika’s favorite place is the toy store. We went and check the latest dolls and the latest GI JOES. Then TOM’S WORLD. We all enjoyed and both me and Thammie won the jackpot in one of the machines.

SECRET: To fully enjoy the kid’s stuff, think and act like a kid!

We ended by having dinner at our favorite cheap restaurant: BAKER’S PASSION. The Cheeseburger is a must try! The House brewed Ice Tea is the best! The price is the champion!

We love spending time with our kids. Alyanna continues to amaze us with her wit and maturity. Mika is now amazing us with her eating skills.

Can’t wait for next Monday

 

FAT DADDY

Last week I was on my way to an event when Alyanna saw me in my white shirt and pants. She was about to go down the stairs when she stopped and said – Daddy why ae you like that, you are fat – you need to go to the gym.

Who thought her to say those words?????

 

bye bye Daddy

Here is the hard truth about parenting:

ONE DAY OUR CHILDREN WILL LEAVE HOME.

Yes, you read it right. You will realize that after investing and caring for them for 18+ to 20+ years they will one day say goodbye and leave home.

So what do we do as parents:

1. Be over protective and make sure they stay with us forever – this would be a bad move because eventually they will grow wiser and bigger than us and can and will find ways to get out of our house and live their own lives.

2. Train them so they can leave us – this would be the better option. Face the brutal fact that they will leave us so while they are in our hands, let us be good stewards and train them to be godly and responsible.

Children are like arrows – one day we will have to shoot them into the world.

Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.  Psalms 127:3
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth.  Psalms 127:4
Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.  Psalms 127:5

So before they say Bye Daddy – be the first to say Bye Son, Bye Daughter!

Unahan lang yan!

 

words your kids want to hear from daddy

Words are powerful. The words of a Father is immensely powerful. They say Daddy brings identity. If you are a Daddy here are some sentences your kids want to hear from you.

IF YOU HAVE A SON THEY WANT TO HEAR YOU SAY

“SON, YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!”

IF YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER THEY WANT TO HEAR YOU SAY

“DAUGHTER, YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL, DADDY LOVES YOU VERY MUCH!”

Say this words to your kids and do it creatively. Be amazed at the results of this powerful words

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.  Proverbs 18:21

 

words to eliminate at home

1. BORING

- never mention boring. Boring means you are not being creative and resourceful with your kids. If they hear you say that – they’ll follow you and will always say it is boring.

2. EXPENSIVE

- started doing this 2 weeks ago. There is no such thing as expensive because God is our provider.

3. UGLY (when describing a person)

- if that person is ugly well how about you? So safe to not use the word. I would not want my daughter to see me with Piolo. She might tell that one of us is …….

4. TOO BUSY FOR YOU

-  is your work really more important than your wife and kids. Come one! Get a life!

 

daddy without mommy

Was there ever a time when your wife had to do something and you were left alone with the kids? Maybe dating with her girlfriends, a retreat they need to attend, a business meeting, or she is sick?

The times I feel most nervous about is being left alone with the kids. Not because we have nothing good to do but it is plain HARD. Maybe because I have 2 daughters. Playing Barbie or kitchen cooking is tough. Talking to imaginary students or pateints in the hospital is weird.

Not to mention – changing a diaper full of crap (literally, I am not cussing), or the other just finished peeing and the other one needs to go or they are grabbing things from each other and when you intervened they started crying and they don’t want to stop.

I dont know how single dads survive. I dont know how I can parent without my wife. Thank you Thammie

Daddy without mommy is HARD.

 

family day

Every Monday is family day. It is a tiring day. It is supposed to be a time of rest for Daddy who works on a Sunday but the rewards outweighs the tiredness I feel after every family day.

Yesterday we were supposed to go to Manila Zoo but 2 minutes away from the zoo, a man said the road to the zoo was closed because of the Iglesia ni Cristo anniversary. So we went to plan B – MALL OF ASIA.

Light snack at Mister Donut. Donuts are the solution to kids craving. Alyanna and Mika ate lots of Donuts to give them the sugar rush they need before we go to TOY KINGDOM.

Alyanna has now learned the word BUY. Dangerous word. Everytime she says can we buy this – my answer is OK, do you have money? But we did end up buying it because it was within our budget.

Mika was also very hyper yesterday. She did pooed twice.

Singing the smile in our kids faces makes a tiring family day worthwhile.

 

daddy’s gift

The perfect gift a daddy can give his children is not:

- material possessions

- a life insurance policy

- a dream vacation

- a nice family van

- a family dog

The greatest gift we can give our children is a strong marriage.

Daddy workshop:

1. Evaluate your marriage – are you building a strong marriage.

2. Date your wife at least once a week

3. Have private times with your wife everyday where your kids know it is daddy and mommy time

4. Buy her an expensive gift.