5 Tenets of Designing for Women

Since we have been unpacking there are some things that Thammie wants that I don’t understand. Then I chance upon this article entitled ” Femme Den’s 5 Tenets of Designing for Women”. Hope this helps every dad and husband to understand the woman of your life.

From Fast Company Magazine, October 2009 by Kate Rockwood

1. EMPHASIZE BENEFITS OVER FEATURES: Rather than touting feature sets and specs (how fast or big or slick something is), make the product’s benefits clear. Who can it connect her to? How does it make her life easier? How will it save her time?

2. LEARN HER BODY: Women have different bone and muscle structure: Simply shrinking products leads to injury and frustration.

3. CRAFT A COHESIVE STORY: Women consider more than just the product itself. Design the whole experience with them in mind, from advertising and packaging to the retail environment and customer service.

4. IDENTIFY A SPOT ON THE SPECTRUM: For some tasks, women want to feel girly; for others, not at all. Nix the hyperfeminized stereotype and consider where on the spectrum this product should land.

5. REMEMBER HER LIFE STAGES: Are you designing for a 25-year-old or a 65-year-old?

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Moving Lessons

I am blessed to own a house somewhere in Quezon City. Since my wedding day, God has never ceased to amazed us with his provision. I could still remember traveling from Quezon City to the Fort every single day and it would on an average take up 3 hours of my time. That was okay when we had no kids.

When I planted the church at Greenhills my travel time was reduced to almost half. On an average day it takes 45 minutes to travel from my house to Greenhills. So that is only about 1 hour and 30 minutes. On rush hour travel is an hour. I remember always getting tired coming home from work and not being able to exercise regularly and having the strength to play with the kids because the DRIVE tires you out.

In some unprecedented move, one day Thammie and I were discussing about the possibility of moving to Greenhills. Live where you work. It excites us so much so we started scouting for a place. After a month – we found one and we did get the place near our office. Some people are asking why the move? You live in a house you owned and it is a big house – why downgrade? Why rent? Why live in a place that is not yours? Why go through the stress of moving?

Thus this blog to answer some questions and write down the things that God has taught to us and revealed to us in this season of moving

1. You can never exchange time with kids over your own comfort.

They say moving is very very tiring and stressful and they are right. We have been tired for the past month. It is not easy moving and for us downgrading. We have to give away so many stuff BUT the exchange of being home early, having time to exercise, living near your work and having quality and quantity time with my kids and wife is precious.

2. Embrace your family’s core values even when others don’t understand (and they may never understand).

Someone told us why are you downgrading? And I know even if I explain myself all day they won’t get it because each family has its own values. None is better than the other but that is just how it is. Just like churches have different values – families do also. One of our core values is MEMORIES. We know that our time with our kids are limited. So we want to maximize our moments with the kids. Pretty soon they would spend time outside the home. Another thing that Thammie and I wish is that we would build a home that our kids would love to go back to. Now this is priceless. I know a lot of big houses that kids dread to visit. Their memories of the house are fights, anger and unforgiveness. Our dream is to have a house that our kids in the future would love to come back to because we have created happy memories with them.

3. Invest on the bedroom. This is so crucial. This is where your day begins and your day ends. Make it comfortable for you and your wife. I love our new room. You can see Metro Manila through our window. I plan to have good times with God and my wife in that room.

4. Enjoy the stress. During stressful times of the move I always remind myself that stress will be gone in a few more weeks. The exchange that we get from the move is something we look forward to. The move gives us more time to be with kids, build more relationship with the people in church, have more hours in our day.

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A Mother of 19 tells us how to raise kids

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How Jesus Treats His Daughters

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The Pain of Change

When the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain of changing, you will change. In life we choose – do we embrace the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.

The pain everytime we talk about parenting is always associated with our child’s behavior but the pain of discipline I am talking about is not about our children but about us.

As Fathers – are there any areas in our lives that we need to embrace the pain of discipline

– being consistent with our behavior
– choosing family over work
– taking care of our health
– spending quantity time and quality time with our kids rather than watch our favorite show or do our own thing.

This blog hurts me more than it will hurt you because I am acknowledging to the whole world that there are times I choose the pain of regret than the pain of discipline. And regret do I have. But the good news is we don’t need to get stuck with our regrets we can do something about it and CHANGE.

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How Dads can Love their Daughters

I have 2 daughters. Alyanna who is 4, and Mika who is 2 years old. I love my daughters and my prayer has always been that I want to be a good dad. The problem is nobody tells us how to be great dads – we are just expected to be great dads. Honestly, I still don’t know if what I am doing is really what a great dad should do.

I chance upon a booklet written by John Eldridge on Fatherhood and what he said there really hit home. He said if you have daughters there are only 2 things they want to hear.

1. I love you

2. You are beautiful.

Simple but true. Alyanna who is 4 years old always asks me everytime she tries on a new dress – “Dad, am I beautiful?” Yes you are and I love you. Do this everyday and I guarantee you will see a difference in your child’s life.

Fathers whether we like it or not, we bring identity to our kids. That is our God-given role.

Here is a video of Pastor Mark Driscoll showing us how Dads shout treat their daughters

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6 Keys to a Better Marriage

Whether you’ve been married six weeks or 26 years, you know that there’s more to making a great marriage than having “the ultimate wedding.”

Time was when society as a whole understood this fact. Wedding ceremonies were simple. Marriages weren’t always flashy or fancy, but they lasted. They weren’t subject to the emotional mood swings that so easily crush them today.

When you were growing up, divorce was a rarity. It only took place under the most dire of circumstances. (Think back to your childhood and adolescence. How many of your friends grew up in what were considered “broken homes?”)

Then, the sexual revolution took place. Men and women gave up on the “traditional family” in record numbers . . . both in society at large and in the Church as well. Soon the divorce rate in both areas had grown to a staggering high of around 55%.

These days, however, that rate is coming down. Folks are getting married again and staying married. They’re putting a bit more thought into what marriage means before walking down the aisle. (In fact, the average age for first-time brides is now 25; for first-time grooms, it’s 26.)

More than likely, these newlyweds grew up in divorced homes. They know the pain and frustration of having two sets of parents. . . of shuttling back and forth between two homes a couple of times a week . . . of wondering if there was something they could have done to keep their parents together.

Well, in addition to putting a bit more thought into marriage than the generation before, this new wave of newlyweds is also doing what they can to stay together. As psychologist Dr. Gary Rosberg says, these folks are serious about wanting to make their unions “divorce-proof.”

If you’re the parent of a teenager, this revelation is good news on two different levels. First, with regards to your own marriage, who among us isn’t interested in strengthening the bonds of holy matrimony? Second, though, think of the impact this wave is having on your kids. You and I were never taught how to “divorce-proof” a marriage. We were simply told that marriage was forever . . . and that is was wrong to divorce. (Talk about sound if not overly simplistic advice!)

Now, we have the opportunity to be the transitional generation . . . to teach our kids what a “divorce-proof” marriage is all about.

Dr. Gary Rosberg and his wife, Barbara, have identified a number of key biblical principles they feel are key if a marriage is to truly be “divorce proof.” And following these guidelines will not only improve your relationship with your spouse today . . . doing so will also establish a pattern your children can follow for their relationship with their future spouse as well.

I call these principles, “6 Keys to a Better Marriage Today.” If you want to strengthen your union right away, start showing your spouse . . . .

1. Forgiving love. Because of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross, all of our sins have been forgiving. The Forgiving Love He has shown us is essential in a marriage. It offers a fresh start after one spouse hurts or offends another. Without forgiveness, no marriage will ever last.

2. Serving love. Do you know your spouse’s deepest needs? Loving him or her with a servant’s heart is the best and quickest way to find out. Serve one another in love (after all – the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve).

3. Persevering love. Marriage is a marathon – not a sprint. Are you in it for the long haul . . . or do you have the tendency to “bail out” when the going gets tough? Persevering Love sustains us through the trials of life (and trials are what makes any marriage real).

4. Guarding love. In other words, let him or her know that you’ll do anything to keep the marriage together (as long as its legal and moral, of course). The modern culture isn’t all that keen on marriage — even though it’s the backbone of society. Guarding Love protects your heart and the heart of your spouse from the threats to your marriage . . . and believe me they’re out there!

5. Celebrating love. That’s right, celebrate your marriage! What a gift the two of you have been given. Celebrating Love equips you to maintain a satisfying emotional, physical and spiritual connection with your mate . . . so celebrate it!

6. Renewing love. No marriage will survive if either or both spouses constantly challenge its integrity by threatening to leave. The fact is, Renewing Love enables both husband and wife to regard the marriage covenant as unbreakable (just like God does). So share this gift with your spouse every day. Rejoice in the fact that you’ll be together forever . . . “for better or worse!”

These six vital expressions of love will make your marriage better. They’ll also help you teach your children how to understand what biblical love and marriage are all about. Love takes time ? any good relationship does. So stay the course . . . keep praying . . . and start “divorce-proofing” your marriage by loving your spouse!

Excerpted from the book, Divorce-Proof Your Marriage by Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg.

Aricle Copyright © 2006 Jim Burns, Used with permission.

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How to Make a Great Tasting Milo Drink

Thammie shares her 20 year secret in making the Best Milo drink. Click on the Milo to know the secret

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Boy’s Room

Just typing the word “BOY’S ROOM” gives me endless memories and pictures of my room when I was young and still living with my parents. I remember our INTERCOM with the words written BOYS ROOM – yeah that’s my room. In that room I am the king except when mom barges in and tells me to wake up because its already late!

In my boy’s room you will find my:

– PUGAD BABOY COLLECTIONS

– GI JOE COLLECTIONS

– NBA CARDS COLLECTION

-MY GELLI DE BELEN POSTERS / MIKEE COJUANGCO PIN UPS

– MY JORDAN, JAWORSKI, PIDO JARENCIO POSTERS

I love my boy’s room. I would never give up my room for anything till Thammie came along.

Since I’ve decided to marry my wife – the boy’s room was no longer my room. The house I grew up in is no longer my house. I had to give up my NBA CARDS, let go off my basketball posters, destory my Gelli de Belen and Mikee posters ( but have kept my Pugad Baboy comics with me (mwahahahaha) and live in a new house – because the moment I committed my life I lost my right to live in the BOY’S ROOM.

Feb 5. 2005 I decided to get me a MAN’S ROOM. It means leaving the house I grew up in and starting a new life with my wife. No more Basketball posters, Mikee pinups and action figures. It also means no more DADDY and MOMMY barging in the room to see if I have brushed my teeth, have I arrived from work/school, or have said my prayers.

Most men don’t get this. They marry the girl of their dreams, promised her a good life but decides to stay in his BOY’S ROOM with his wife, and the basketball posters, the pin ups, the toys and MAMA who knocks on the door to check if you are practicing safe sex with your wife. You still live with a curfew, your wife is like a mistress who can’t move at home because she was given only privilege to fix the boy’s room!

I think it is about time for married men to leave the boy’s room and get yourself a MAN’S ROOM.

Gen. 2:24  For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Matt. 19:5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?

Mark 10:7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,

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Daddy Benny Hinn

From Yahoo news:

ORANGE, Calif. – The wife of televangelist Benny Hinn has filed for divorce in Southern California.

Suzanne Hinn filed the papers in Orange County Superior Court on Feb. 1, citing irreconcilable differences, after more than 30 years of marriage. The papers note the two separated on Jan. 26 and that Hinn has been living in Dana Point, a wealthy coastal community in southern Orange County.

Hinn is one of the best known advocates of the prosperity gospel, which teaches that Christians who are right with God will be rewarded with wealth and health in this lifetime.

When Benny Hinn was asked to comment about the divorce, here was the answer:

“I will not allow anything to slow me down or stop me”

So there is the answer – when you put MINISTRY above your wife and your family – this is how it ends up most of the time. Pastors and to the readers of this blog it is high time we assess the health of our marriages and our families.

Is our job, ministry more important than our family?

Is your job, passion, ministry really worth in exchange for your family?

1Tim. 3:2 So an elder must be a man whose life is above reproach. He must be faithful to his wife. He must exercise self-control, live wisely, and have a good reputation. He must enjoy having guests in his home, and he must be able to teach.
1Tim. 3:3 He must not be a heavy drinker or be violent. He must be gentle, not quarrelsome, and not love money.
1Tim. 3:4 He must manage his own family well, having children who respect and obey him.
1Tim. 3:5 For if a man cannot manage his own household, how can he take care of God’s church?

Take a time to pray for your pastors and their families. Also make sure to give your pastor ample time every week to spend with their families.

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